How Peace Corps and Marriage Aren’t As Different as You Think

Photo by Carly J. Collins

Photo by Carly J. Collins

My friends and I often talk about how our Peace Corps service and marriage are so similar. “I’m married to the Peace Corps,” we’ll jokingly say. Interestingly, I can’t find a better analogy.

We commit ourselves to 27 months of service, but there’s a catch, you can leave at any time. That’s right. The door is there everyday staring you in the face. You have to have the courage to remind yourself of the faith, the hope and the passion that led you to there in the first place. And you know what, it’s not always easy. Actually, I’d argue to say that it’s usually filled with more difficult moments than easy ones.

After some lost love and an almost divorce from my Peace Corps service, I’ve realized this about life, marriage, love and being married to the Peace Corps: You have to wake up every day and say, “I choose you.”

You must say it on the days when you’re red in the face and want to scream, and especially on the days when you want to walk out the most. It’s in those moments that you must find the courage to stay, because it matters. It really really does, and if you walk away, there will be a twinge of regret for not riding through it. You can’t run away from this. Instead, you have to sit with it long enough to remember why you’re here in the first place.

I think, after some time, your heart will lead you to exactly the place you need to be. But first, admit that you’re already there. Wake up everyday, and through smiles, laughter, or tears, say, “I choose you.”



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3 responses to “How Peace Corps and Marriage Aren’t As Different as You Think

  1. Good afternoon,

    Sorry to bother you. My name is Ray Blakney and I am a RPCV from Mexico. I am working on a 3rd goal project with the PC regional offices and the main office in DC to try to create an online archive to keep the language training material made all over the world from getting lost. I have created a sub-section on my website with all the information I have been able to get to date (from over the web and sent to me directly by PC staff and PCV’s). I currently have close to 100 languages with ebooks, audios and even some videos.

    The next step for this project is that I am trying to get the world out about this resource so that it can not only be used by PCV’s or those accepted into the Peace Corps, but also so that when people run across material that is not on the site they can send it to me and I can get it up for everybody to use. I was hoping that you could help getting the word out by putting a link on this on your site at:

    so that people know it is there. There should be something there for almost everybody. It is all 100% free to use and share. Here is the page:

    Thanks for any help you can provide in making this 3rd goal project a success. And if anybody in your group has some old material they can scan or already have in digital form, and want to add to the archive, please don’t hesitate to pass them my email. Thanks and have a great day.

    Ray Blakney

    • Thanks, Ray. I’ll look into it, speak with our language coordinator and see what I can do. I’m only here for about 2.5 more months so I’ll let some of the other in-country PCVs know as well so when I’m gone maybe that can pick up. Best of luck.

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